What to Say After the First Date

“Always come from a place of integrity. You want to sandwich the more negative response between two positive comments,” Deanna Cobden, Dating and Relationship Coach, recommends. “Try to mention something positive about your experience on the date. Even if it was boring or didn’t go the way you wanted, you can still find something to appreciate about it.”
 
Another thing to keep in mind? Compassion. “This person is putting him or herself out there and being vulnerable, and that‘s a very brave thing to do.”
 
Try saying, “I really appreciated you taking the time to meet with me last Friday night. And while I enjoyed your company, I just didn’t feel a romantic connection. It was great meeting you and I wish you all the best.”
 
Honesty is always the best policy, and Dr. Jess O’Reilly, Sexologist, has a few ways to say you’re not interested that are succinct yet sweet:
 
“I don’t see this becoming a serious relationship and that’s what I’m looking for right now.”
 
“You’re wonderful, but I’m just not feeling the chemistry between us.”
 
“I like and respect you and want to be straightforward to be fair…I just don’t think I’m the right fit.”
 
“I feel like the connection between us is more platonic.”
 
When it comes to online dating etiquette, it’s good to remember the golden rule—treat others the way you’d like to be treated. It’s not good to leave people hanging because you’re afraid to say you’re not interested. Be honest. Be kind. You may be surprised how much people appreciate it, and how better you feel.
 
Singles are More Talkative After Christmas Too
 
Not only are more people signing up for online dating but more people are messaging each other too. On Zoosk, singles send 15% more messages between December 26 through January 3 too.
 
People in Their 30s, 40s, and Up Are the Most Active
 
During that time 35–44 year-olds send about 17% more message and those who are 45 and older send 15% more. So if you’re looking for other singles over 40, the odds may be even more in your favor.
 
The Love Keeps Coming All the Way through January
 
After the holidays, there’s still a lot of action. The month of January gets 10% more sign ups than the rest of the year. And both men and women continue to send more messages—men send 5% more and women send 7% more.
 
Whether you’re looking for that perfect date for New Year’s Eve or someone to start a serious relationship with in the year ahead, know that you’re not alone. More singles are looking to date now than during any other time. So take advantage of this peak time and give it a try. The new year is full of new possibilities!

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